Freedom of choice in choosing a life partner determines the destiny of one’s life?
In case you have entered one or you are considering a relationship and you
notice some signs or feel some doubt, there is still time to avoid a lifetime error.
The truth is that while trying to take the preventive measures to avoid such
errors, there are ‘vital’ excuses that can surface which the enemy creates in the
minds of those he wants to deal with in the future. Some of these excuses are:
I’d rather settle for him than be alone.
What’s wrong with being single? You’re not alone (Hebrews 13:5). Being a
Christian, you are totally complete in Christ, lacking nothing (Colossians 4:12). If
you are settling for an unhealthy relationship just to be married, you are missing
the amazing indescribable intimacy God offers you; He will continue to politely
step aside as you choose to accept less
(Psalm 25:16). Seek to be complete in Him (Proverbs 8:17), first, and ditch this
excuse before you miss “the one” that He has purposed for you to marry (Psalm
139:16). Give God a chance, for He is your provider (II Corinthians 9:8) and is able
to do abundantly above all that you could possibly ask or imagine (Ephesians
3:20). “…Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” – God, Hebrews 13:5
We’ve had sex.
Years ago, I confessed to a distant cousin that I was having doubts about my
My biggest fear was that I had to stay with him simply because we had sex. Is this
feel? Well, he reminded me that sex outside marriage is a sin. This is a good
excuse to discontinue. Sex outside marriage brings horrible
consequences to every area of life, leading ultimately to death (James 1:15).
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the
body, but whoever sins sexually sins against his own body.”
I Corinthians 6:18
We have a child together.
OK. So you’re single and pregnant, or maybe you’re single with children already.
You have a great reason to abandon, not your kids, but the sinful relationship
you are entangled in. (Hebrews 12:1). Admit it. As children, most of us aspired to
have better lives than those who raised us. My point is, it is better to stay single
(I Timothy 6:6) and trust in the Lord. The choices YOU make affect future
I’m waiting until Mr. Right comes along. This is just like you are already in a bad
relationship and you are waiting till you see Mr. Right before you leave the
relationship. Let’s get serious! If Mr. Right crosses your path, he’ll consider your
and immaturity. Hanging onto mediocre relationships is like dumpster diving for
trash when God is offering true treasure just. around the bend.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and
wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”
II Corinthians 6:14 (to be contd)